A man with no money, no plan, has no business chasing love – Nigerian pastor’s wife says

An Akwa Ibom pastor’s wife, Emem Isong, has said that a man with no money and plan has no business looking for love. 

The evangelist, who stated this in a Facebook post on Wednesday, May 21, said any woman lying next to a man that can’t pull £500 out of the ATM should wake up.

“You ever seen a woman lose herself trying to love a man who had nothing to give her but stress? I have. And it’s ugly. She starts off soft—supportive, believing in him. But over time, the bills pile up, her smile fades, and her eyes get tired. Tired of carrying it all. 

A man with no money, no plan, no discipline has no damn business chasing love. That’s not romantic—it’s reckless. What you’re really doing is looking for a woman to sponsor your struggle while you ‘figure it out.’

That’s not being a man. That’s being a burden.

If you can’t provide peace, protection, or progress—leave her alone. 

Don’t drag her into your chaos because you’re scared to be alone with your own lack.

You think love will fix it? Nah. Love without stability just turns into pāin. And she’ll remember you as the lesson, not the blessing.

If you’re laying next to a man that can’t pull £500 out of the ATM, wake the hell up.

So before you pull up talking about love, ask yourself: Am I bringing peace—or just more problems? If your fathers didn’t teach you, I am! No Dusty Bums Allowed!